Middle-aged bouts of insomnia are different.
One of those glorious days, not only the sun and spring, but one in which the writing pulls me along, informs and excites me.
I’m waxing weepy because this morning I made an expression of love,
couched (I thought) in a bit of privacy, and the immediate response was, “I love you, too, Deb.”
The act of loving. Of receiving love.
It has been a rough year – a brilliant year – a privileged year – a busy year. It appears, if one is willing to do the work and do it hard and as best one can, that opportunities accrue by an order of magnitude.
Which also attracts well-wishes and envy.
I read a poem about a bear.
It reminded me of once upon a time, when I stood in a zoo – the very last time I ever entered a zoo. I stood in a plexiglass-walled cave, and watched a bear on the other side.
The bear pushed off of the clear wall and swam, its pool merely three times the length of its body stretched out. It – he? she? – ducked under and swam back, pushed off of the wall and reached the shore, ducked under and swam, pushed off of the wall, ducked under, swam.
The motion was restful, meditative, some part of me moving through the water with the bear, making the best of a cramped situation not unlike my perception of my own.
Two people strolled up through the cave, remarking on the news story about the bear’s depression, tsk tsk tsk-ing away.
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What do you do when someone you love has changed? Or is this who they always were, but your blinders have fallen away?
In my work, there is a clear hierarchy to which professionals adhere and that amateurs at least recognize.
That’s not quite true, I’ll start again.
This post is a point-by-point response to “Fifteen Things You Should Give Up to be Happy.”
1. Let others be “right.” Accept that yours isn’t the only right way to do or think or be, there are always myriad options that still fit that word.
2. Collaborate. If you’re always in charge, in control, how little you will learn. Think Buckminster Fuller’s dictum that the whole exceeds the sum of the parts.
3. Praise. Instead of blaming this, that, or the other, find something praiseworthy in all things. Much simpler than it sounds, and you’ll make new synapses as well (bonus to everyone with Alzheimer’s genes).